What has been the biggest challenge for you with three kids?

"Definitely finding time for each of my kids individually and also finding time for Andrew. It's such a hard balance and I feel really spread thin. It sometimes feels like there's not enough hours in the day to give as much undivided attention as I'd like, so I'm working on that!"

How has juggling three kids affected your marriage?

“We’ve definitely had moments where we feel like we’re in over our heads but I’m grateful for how humbling this season has been. For Andrew and I, our marriage is a huge priority. We feel like if we’re prioritizing each other, that’s the best thing for our kids to see. Don’t get me wrong, it’s been really hard at times to pursue each other with three kids under five, but we hold onto our weekly date nights, even if that’s the only real quality time we get together. If you can’t do a date night, try to do a simple check in once a week to make sure you’re on the same page. Anyone who says having kids has no impact on their marriage probably isn’t telling the truth because it’s a HUGE shift, every single time. It’s how you choose to grow in that shift that matters most”

How did you prepare Drew and Jett for another sibling?

"We started talking to them about it as soon as I got pregnant. The most helpful thing we did was put the possession of the baby on them, which sounds silly, but it really works. Instead of saying "my baby" I would say "their baby," "their brother" etc. I would tell them things like, "Your baby brother is so excited to meet you next month!" and they would light up. We made a countdown out of paper rings starting at 60 days and each day they would remove a ring which got them involved and excited. We also got them each a book "from the baby" and gave it to them closer to his arrival. "

What kind of activities have you found are good for the whole family?

"Get outside! That has been SO helpful for us. You really can't go wrong outside with little kids. Go for a walk, go to the park, do chalk art, visit a farmer's market, really anything outdoors. When you can all feel the sun and fresh air it's a game changer, plus if you can find a place the kids can run around freely that's a huge bonus."

What do you do on days that feel chaotic and you just want to throw in the towel?

"Oh man..I would say simply ask for help, which feels so hard. Ask a spouse, friend, family member, neighbor- whoever is available that you trust. I've had to get better at this and we're really lucky to have my parents nearby and a babysitter we love but if you feel like you're own your own it's definitely important to express that to your significant other, so you don't hold onto resentment. Join a mom’s group, call a friend, pop over to a neighbor's house just to take a breather. Asking for help on the hard days helps me feel less alone and I think that’s really important."

What advice you would give to a new mom who feels discouraged about how hard the postpartum season has been?

“The postpartum season is so different for everyone. It’s imperative you don’t compare your experience to anyone else’s. Chances are, you’re only seeing a small glimpse into how they’re handling it. Be gentle with yourself and be honest with your friends and family when they ask how you’re doing- nobody has it all together. If you’re struggling, there’s never any shame in telling your doctor. Remember, so many women have been through this same thing. Try to do one thing a day that makes you genuinely happy and brings you joy. You got this.”